Were you nervous about writing the book?

“OMG, yes! Nervous about failing the challenge I had given myself and sharing the most intimate and emotional parts of my life. This last one was really hard!”

How did it feel to write this book?

“I found it similar to the creativity and hard work required in architecture, but given the personal subject matter and not being a writer, it was both challenging and emotional in unexpected ways.”

Turner, how does it feel to see your life story in print?

“Mostly scary, but with great satisfaction that I’ve come out of those times with my life intact and that I was able to articulate in words, for others to read, what that life was like.”

You were very open and vulnerable in this book. Was that hard?

“Yes and no, but mostly yes. Giving life to my inner thoughts as characters with voices in the book helped enormously. It gave me a way to express various struggles I experienced during the times I write about, but it also allowed me to poke fun at myself during the writing.”

What do you hope readers will gain from your book?

“I know many people, including me, often feel alone or set apart from the world because of the problems, trials, tribulations, and tragedies they experience. I hope readers feel less alone, dare I say make a connection, from reading my book. I also hope they can laugh at Turner and his experiences. Laughter is great medicine for life.”

If you could go back and change your dating decisions, would you change anything?

“I forced too many situations when I shouldn’t have. My inner voices were right ninety percent of the time; however, I only listened to them twenty percent of the time.

What advice would you give someone who found themselves re-entering the dating scene after a long time out of it?

“It’s easy to think that you’re ‘the problem’ when things don’t go the way you want or they go badly. You’re not the problem. Finding love is tricky business, but so is life in general.”

What advice do you have for people currently on Venus?

“Quoting from my book, ‘Love isn’t something you find; it’s something that finds you.’”

Will you be granting interviews for podcasts, shows, or presentations related to dating?

“Yes. I hope there will be many opportunities to speak about dating and to hear the stories of others. Book clubs are a group of readers I particularly hope to reach. Perhaps a few author invitations will come my way. That would be a lot of fun!”

What comes next for Turner Grant?

“A certain amount of peace in my life. This book marks the end of a journey that was not of my choosing, but I’m still here and very blessed.”